How many times in your life have you had this conversation:
"Congratulations I hear you are expecting! Do you want a boy or a girl?"
"It doesn't matter. As long as its healthy!"
Its sort of cliche, I suppose.
I've had this same conversation many times in my life. From both sides. I was the pregnant mom. And I was the one talking to the pregnant mom.
It wasn't until after the twins were born that I really sat and thought about those words.
As long as its healthy.
What do you mean by that? Do you mean that you don't really want the baby if she's not healthy?
Send her back please. I'd like a healthy one.
If you've ever experienced a hardship of any kind in your life, and I'm quite sure you have, then you know that sometimes we take things for granted.
Unfortunately most often, until we've experienced such a hardship, we don't realize it.
For example, your heart is beating. Your lungs are breathing. You might have traveled this far through the pages of your life and you've never given a second thought to your beating heart and your breathing lungs.
Until I was blessed with babies with heart and lung problems.
What a blessing.
God's reminder that, oh yeah, this is what He is doing for me. Every second. Of every day. Of my entire life.
See how much I love you?
How many people go through their entire life and never realize the power of the gift of a beating heart. Of breathing lungs.
How blessed I am that I do.
My friend Kelley and I have discussed this in detail.
The blessings of preemies.
See, her daughter was born premature around the same time as our girls.
And we have walked this road together. The rollercoaster of the NICU. The ups and downs of life with a preemie (or 2) at home. The feelings of helplessness when taking your baby back to the hospital after working so hard to get her out. The gripping fear when hearing a baby's diagnosis. The unknown. The trust that we must place in God.
The amazing education we have been given on account of these tiny, beautiful beings.
This education is two-fold:
It is medical.
And it is spiritual.
Early on in her daughter's precious life, Kelley's pediatrician spoke to her about the future.
He said, "By the time you get through this, you will be a cardiologist, a neurologist, and a pediatrician all rolled into one."
Boy was he was right. Just ask Kelley about their amazing journey. You can read her blog at Fairy Tale Endings.
And what the heck is a PDA anyway? I thought it was a phone.
Turns out its a tiny yet very important vessel that keeps babies alive in utero. And amazingly, it is engineered to close as soon as the baby takes her first breath so she can stay alive.
This is just one of the many examples of the miracle of life.
I've never questioned the idea of humans being created by God, but taking this journey with our daughters has put an exclamation point on it.
So while its easy to see that healthy children are always blessings, please remember that children with diagnoses are incredible blessings too. They open up many eyes to a whole new world.
How blessed are we :)